I am a very private person, yet I am an open book.
If you don’t ask…I won’t tell.

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Introvert, Extrovert, Does It Matter?

Nowadays we live in a society where being an extrovert is considered somewhat mentally healthier and many people think it is the best for learning - for example, school classes often get divided into work groups, assignment groups, study groups etc. due to this aspect. Think about how often it is advertised that working with people and as a group is the most effective way of learning or productivity.

However for introverts the idea of group projects and working with others is often undesired as they prefer working on their own. Things like reading to oneself instead of socializing during a work break or free time for an introvert can seem ideal but extroverts often depict this as a sign of loneliness, not liking the people they could be socializing with, not being happy, or being shy. This depiction is all due to our society’s social bias towards being an extrovert and considered ‘healthier’ mentally for example. Due to this, introverts can often be accused of having deeper problems such as depression due to their preference to being with themselves over others. This is a gross mis-representation and can be extremely hurtful and even harmful to some. Shyness is also another concept often related to introverts however personally I believe the two are completely different. Shyness by definition is nervous or timid in the company of other people - being an introvert means you are content spending time with yourself this doesn’t therefore mean you are nervous around others. Of course one can be shy and an introvert but the two are very different and do not come in hand with each other. 

Being an introvert simply means one is happy and content to spend time with themselves, where as extroverts feel the need to have social stimulation to suffice these feelings. Simple as that, being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re depressed or lonely, being an extrovert doesn’t mean your an attention seeker - it is simply your preference to time and company.

Group work and activities are often promoted as the healthier and more effective way of living - whether in reference to learning or socially. However, many studies have proven that these references are incorrect. Neither is greater than the other or more effective in things like learning. Statistics suggest that working and learning in an environment which best caters one’s lifestyle (introvert or extrovert), are the most effective ways of learning. For example; group work for extroverts, individual work for introverts. 

Whether you are an introvert or extrovert, you should not feel pressured to stray from the ways in which you prefer, not only for personal reasons but in relation to learning it can provide a more effective outcome. However, unfortunately for introverts we are in a society that is socially bias towards living as an extrovert in which I think it is vital we try to correct the incorrect stigma associated with being an introvert. Providing a more introvert-friendly environment is essential to help those prosper and blossom and given the same opportunity as extroverts. 

By Sim / Photo by Joyce of MyDubio

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Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.
― Things I’ll teach my children  (via whitenes-s)

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Date someone who meets you half way. Date someone who brings you a glass a water when they get themselves one. Date someone who makes sure you don’t spend money on ridiculous things. Date someone your ex hates and your mom loves. Date someone who’d rather spend a Friday night watching movies, than out with 50 people they barley even talk to. Date someone who sleeps on your chest and leaves a little puddle of drool. Don’t date someone who makes you leave oceans of tears.
― At the end of the day it’s the little things. (via offtheocean)
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You are most powerful when you are most silent. People never expect silence. They expect words, motion, defense, offense, back and forth. They expect to leap into the fray. They are ready, fists up, words hanging leaping from their mouths. Silence? No.
― Alison McGhee (via larmoyante)
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LIFE HACK: disguise your nervous breakdown as a series of jokes

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